All of us have at least once in our lives questioned the reason for our existence. In the field of mental health we call it an existential crisis – “a moment at which an individual questions the very foundations of their life: whether their life has any meaning, purpose, or value”.
In my own journey in search for meaning, I read the book The Values Factor written by Dr John Demartini. In this book he explains that our life purpose = highest values = spiritual mission is the unique and individualized service in which we are able to serve the world. Mandela described it like this: “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
The first thing (obviously) is to figure out what is most important and most inspiring, and the clearer you are on that, the clearer your life purpose. I realized that, figuring out my life purpose is not as difficult as I thought, because our actions naturally reflect what is most important to us – we just have to LOOK. Just think of how many times today you moved toward something or someone you liked, or away from something or someone you didn’t like. Our actions realistically are good indications of what we value and prioritize.
Emotions of Purpose
Now, the typical emotions that we associate with doing what we love, are happiness, contentment, elation, etc. But this seems to be a bit of a fantasy. Because I know people that are doing what they love, but dealing with obstacles and challenges every day. Even for them, it is impossible to be happy all the time. Dr Demartini explains that, when we live according to our highest values and therefore walk in our life purpose, we are able to walk in love and gratitude, when we see how the challenges serves us ON the way to our mission, instead of IN the way. Napolean Hill understood it also during his lifetime: “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Love and gratitude is a balanced state, it is when the heart opens and we can truly serve anyone in the world with our spiritual mission/life purpose – even the people that we otherwise would find hard to serve.
When you don’t follow your life purpose, you feel that you are missing out on something very special, life is mundane and has little meaning. We associate negative emotions with this type of life. Emotions however, and more specifically the negative ones, are often indicators as to when it’s time to move on or shift from stagnant or uninspiring situations, the ones that draw us away from our life purpose or spiritual mission.
Purpose of Emotions
Emotions are in fact feedback systems – giving us feedback about what we’re doing. Emotions can be seen as data, helping us to become more authentic, more true to ourselves and therefore closer to what we are destined for. So see your emotions as a feedback mechanism to your conscious mind, to guide you to pursue realistic actions that are aligned with your life purpose or spiritual mission. The gratitude then steps in when we realize how the events causing these emotions serve us to move ever closer to our life purpose. Living through gratitude will open your heart and balance your emotions allowing you to truly manifest your life purpose or spiritual mission.
Nietzsche said “He who has a WHY to live for can bear almost any HOW.”
So go, and be AMAZING!